Marriage | Reflection Questions

Marriage Reflection Q’s

Year End Examines for Married Couples

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Enjoying the “Harvest“

  1. How Have We Grown?
    What areas have I grown in that encourages you and inspires you? {example please} 

  2. Do you remember how much you struggled with _______, now I see you ________, and it inspires, encourages me. Husband/Wife, I have seen you overcome ______________. 

  3. I love it when you are ________________. It makes me feel (think) that I am _________. {examples please} 

  4. I Felt/feel respected when _____________. Thank you. 

  5. I feel loved when _____________. Thank you. 

  6. Some things I’ve learned over the last ____ years about myself.

  7. Some things I’ve learned about you over the last ____ years. {remember to mention the small things you’ve learned or noticed about each other as well}

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Remember When?

  1. What are some of the highlights of the last ____ years?
    {recalling best moments of each year, sequentially}

  2. Remember when ____________? 
    {fun moments, heartbreaks, grateful, etc}

  3. What are you thankful to God for? 

  4. Let’s look over some of our pictures/videos together. 

  5. In a few words, can you describe what the last ____ years were like? 

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Uprooting Annoying Weeds that Get in the Way

Re-occuring Conflicts

  • What do we fight about? Why? 

  • What is the fight behind this fight? 

  • What Mantra or Script do these fights reveal? 

  • What am I afraid of or trying to protect in these fights?


Growing Together

  • What areas or things do I still need to improve on?
    (Edit me please)

Colored Lenses

  • I still have a hard time believing you are _________. 

  • I feel that you still think of me as __________. 

  • I feel that some of your biggest judgments on me are _______, _________, ________. 

  • And it’s expressed mostly through __________. 

  • Why do you feel like it’s still so hard to change this view of me? 

  • Where do you think this view of me, men/women, started? 

  • How can I further help change this view of me? 


Coping with Stress & Disappointments

  • What continues to stress you out? 

  • What do you fear (anxious)? Why?

  • How have you coped with the stress, fears and anxiety over the years?

  • Did any hurtful habits develop in order to deal with the stress?

  • How can I help you de-compress better? 

Reconciliation

  • What are some relationships in our lives that still need mending/reconciliation?

  • How and when should we approach it? 


Desires and Dreams

  • What do you want our next ten years to look like, be about? 

  • Should we create a bucket-list for the next ten years?
    Categories: Kids, Us, Myself, Travel, Fitness, Finance, Church, Ministries, Education ,Career. 

  • My dream for the next ten years are _______. 


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Worship Together

  • How can we effectively use our marriage to worship God? 

  • How can we effectively use our marriage to serve Others? 

  • How can we effectively use our marriage to bless the Church? 

  • How can we prepare so that our marriage will continue to & in greater measure serve the hurting, lonely and the broken?


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Dates & Planning

  • Should we plan a marriage “check up” meeting/counseling, etc? 

  • Should we plan “intimacy” nights? 

  • Should we plan “date nights”?

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Extra
Do you find any of the 4 C’s developing or practiced still?

  • 4 C’s: Compulsive Behavior and Reactions, Coping Mechanisms, Compensating for Lack, Controlling and Manipulations - all in order to achieve some sense of Peace and Security.